Am i too intimidating to men

Sometimes Fergus has meetings with customers or other things and it’s hard to cover for him or reschedule without knowing if he’s running late, not coming in at all, out for the rest of the week, etc.As a human person, I am filled with compassion for Fergus and my heart breaks to witness his suffering, as well as the financial strain this puts on his family.Its one thing to want your non-blk man to be awake and aware of the challenges that race implications create in society.

Black women will negotiate with Black Sexism without blinking an eye, but the notion of navigating race-issues with a non-blk partner without making it the center of the household seems foreign? Just like many bm choose ww who remind them of bw but arent, bw do the same with wm.

They actually WANT a black male, but cant find or keep one so they go find a white one and try to TURN him into a black dude.

There are MANY pros for dating/courting/marrying/mating/partnering with black women. My suggestion to wm who are looking for a black woman to love would be to make sure she is not using you in some strange reverse Black Love scheme – where she gets to live out her Race-First SJW imperative, not by fighting “the system’ in abstract, but by using her influence to convert a single white man for the cause.

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Black males are not excluded from the advent of Sexism – to the contrary they were the FIRST Sexists.

Yet bw dont feel the need to champion that cause and place it at the center of all their interactions with them.

If I won the lottery, I would give them a million dollars and throw Fergus the best retirement party of all time.

But as a manager who is unlikely to be rich any time soon, I am frustrated by his inability to notify me when he will be out and embarrassed when I don’t know when or if he’ll be coming in.

(I don’t know why Jane doesn’t always call, but she isn’t my employee so I don’t think it would be appropriate to make her part of my solution.)What is my best move here?

Of course “didn’t feel like going to work today, too lazy to call boss” is hugely different from “medical condition made it impossible for me to notify boss I couldn’t work.” Yet I still need to know where my staff are at their scheduled start time!

Its duplicitous and ridiculous and I would encourage all white/non-blk men who are genuinely interested and open to partnering with black women to avoid chics like that like the plague.