“If a person keeps on pressing you for specific information, that’s a big warning sign.”If you’re a single parent, keep those kids a mystery (with the exception of their actual existence).“Your profile will typically say whether or not you have kids, but beyond that, don’t go into details about your children until you’re in an actual relationship,” Snell says.“Also, don’t post pictures of your kids on your profile.”If the conversation rapidly turns intimate or inappropriate, nix the contact just as quickly.“When people want to meet immediately or late at night, that’s a big red flag.“Members of the Church would be surprised at the shocking number of people who have met their spouses [online].
There is more to you than just your religion, and it can sometimes come across as judgmental,” Snell says.“Don’t build your whole profile off of how many callings you’ve had or inspirational quotes solely from the scriptures.“Going online opens up possibilities to meet more people.”Need another perk?The type of crowd online dating attracts is typically older and more successful.“This type of dating usually draws in people of the professional world,” says Snell, who has created a series of dating books and DVDs known as “It’s Not You—It’s Your Technique” (itsyourtechnique.com).Same goes for people who engage in sexual conversations,” Snell says.
“No one who wants a real relationship is going to godown that road.”Steve Carter, 32, couldn’t agree more.“We have to be careful,” says the Utah single, who has dated online for the last two years.
“It is becoming increasingly difficult for LDS people to meet a potential spouse once they’re out of college,” says Alisa Snell, a dating coach and marriage and family therapist in Utah.
“You’re just not in front of the masses, which translates to fewer opportunities.”Holly Coleman, 36, can’t argue there.“You get to the point—especially in my age group—when you feel like you’ve met every eligible person in your circles,” says Coleman, who met her husband on e Harmony and married him in 2011.
“I’m not saying you have to tell all your deepest secrets, but you can’t misrepresent yourself.”What’s more, it’s not good enough to just be honest.
You have to be authentic.“Be yourself,” Coleman says.
Not to mention the online world can give you a buffer in case the relationship fizzles.“Many men don’t date women in their singles wards just so they can avoid awkward encounters if it doesn’t work out,” Snell says. Online settings can give you that extra boost of confidence.“I actually think I’m better at online dating,” says Chloe Andersen, 33, a New York City resident who’s been online dating off and on for the last seven years.