Despite my overwhelming anxiety before I got there, I was quickly made to feel welcome and I felt at home. Finding the place where bliss and joy meet in a potential future. Being able to place my heart in someone else’s hands, and trust that he will keep it safe…
Any thought of others, and the subsequent pain that will be inflicted on those left behind, is brushed aside because the suicide can not see past his/her own pain.
Ironically, the suicide survivor also acts egocentrically because after the death, he/she immediately wants to shoulder the blame and make it all about him or her.
Accordingly, the following “I” statements are commonly heard."These questions, and similar ones, are asked in the quest for the survivor to make sense of this irrational act.
It is virtually impossible to successfully apply logic to an illogical situation and expect to arrive at a satisfactory answer.
In truth, there are very few good explanations why someone would choose death as a solution to a problem, with the exception being the case of euthanasia.
The Dalai Lama once said, “It is worth remembering that the time of greatest gain in terms of wisdom and inner strength is often that of greatest difficulty.” I have never lost a spouse and will never pretend to know what it feels like, but I am an optimistic person.
I’d like to think that if my husband passed, I’d spend the time I needed to mourn, and then I would realize that life and love are beautiful things.
I’d never “move on,” but I’d certainly be open to love again.
For senior women — who very well could have been with their husband for decades — how long should you mourn?
You are the only person who knows how long you will mourn.
One day you will wake up and no longer feel like the weight of the world is on your chest.
The survivor’s guilt is compounded by the fact that a person’s emotional and rational minds do not travel along parallel highways.