"Some women think, 'If I show a sexy picture, he's going to think I'm sexy.' If you show a sexy picture, he's going to want to hook up," says online dating expert Julie Spira, founder of Cyber Dating
It kind of makes me think that he's not comfortable with who he is in being able to stand alone and put himself out there," she says.
Jamie Madnick, 27, a preschool teacher in Philadelphia who met her boyfriend of over a year on OKCupid , says she didn't like seeing "a guy in a picture with a girl or all girls.
Like male peacocks showing off their magnificent plumage to attract a mate, some men on dating sites post topless mirror gym selfies. Women, they say, tend to swipe left when they see gym selfies.
Likewise, dating sites are full of women's selfies taken from an elevated vantage point, highlighting their cleavage.
It's intimidating." For her own photos, Madnick says she always included "a full body, because I don't want it to be deceiving," and she included travel pictures "because that's a big part of my life.
I want to show them if you are going to be with me, expect adventure and expect travel." Keeping the photos focused on you is important in "creating that attraction," says another online dating expert, Laurie Davis Edwards of e Flirt Expert.com, based in Los Angeles.
Do have a close-up of your face as well as a full-length image, so daters can see your body type.
Do use captions to identify family members if they're in your pictures. Don't be so small in your photos that you can't be seen easily, and don't wear clothing that covers you head to toe, such as a ski outfit.
In order to do that, you can’t use your arm to take the photos.
Selfies distort the proportions of your face, making your forehead or nose look larger than it is.
That’s why I’m not here to tell you how to take “the best dating photo ever.” Rather, I’m here to teach you how to get above-average pictures easily, without leaving home. This could look like you holding your guitar while smiling at your friend; just sitting there confidently with a smile on your face, your elbow brushing against a side table with your favorite book on it; holding a coffee mug; playing with your dog.