If I follow what feels right, am I setting myself up for future failure? Usually, we don't question the things we know in our gut to in our best interests.
I never intended to date men at all, let alone older men – for most of my early twenties, I was head-over-heels for a woman.
She and I had just parted ways when I vowed to stop dating for at least a year, and to try to clean up the hot mess that was my 26-year-old self at the time.
My 48-year-old fiancé has a more hopeful and generous outlook on life than anyone I’ve ever met.
He is planning to run marathons into his 90s, and given his genes and motivation, I’ll be surprised if it doesn’t happen.
Okay, but consider this: are you drawn to him because he is so settled in his life while you are still putting the pieces of yours together? In my twenties, I dated a man who was eleven years my senior and it was great until I realized I was living vicariously through him.
I wanted to be where he was in his life - accomplished, more confident, and all the other things that come with additional years on the planet.You are in your late twenties, a time in life when you are just beginning to become sure of who you are and what you want.You are creating your life while he is already in the prime of his.In my opinion, there is a lot more than just 15 years that separates you from your 42-year-old boyfriend.He's had a heck of a lot more life experience than you have.Emotional maturity looks like empathy, vulnerability, and open communication. In his late 50s, James believed he had only a few years left.