The important thing about the married man is he’s probably coping with his limited marriage by doing something else (work, alcohol, substances, whatever consumes and distracts him).
In some instances he ‘knows’ his wife is cheating on him and looks the other way.
Triangles exist simply because a problem is not being resolved in a marriage.Two people get married and have marital problems, instead of resolving those problems either by fixing the relationship or ending it, which by the way can be a valid resolution of a problem, a third party is brought into the relationship, and now you have a triangle.The work needed is usually in the area of developing a better tolerance for love and intimacy by clearing out whatever fears and blockage the guy has in the way.Then he can go after a whole and available single woman. He’s the ‘other man’s’ competition, but not really.Too many pieces for stability what you get instead is fragmentation, conflict, and limited intimacy.
So let’s look at the type of triangle that has one woman and two men in it.Let’s do one at a time starting with the ‘other man.’ He is definitely looking for love in the wrong place and with the wrong person.His superficial belief that he wants someone else’s woman for the convenience is a lie he defensively tells himself.The ‘other man’ gets painfully left out, not yet knowing that is the best thing that could happen to him.All three people in this triangular arrangement have their issues.I know the storybooks tell us that it’s better to stay together.