Everything went smoothly—until they met in person for a cup of coffee.
They had many things in common and talked for about 45 minutes.
Do they take drugs or drink to kill their brain cells, do they refuse to read, write, go to school, or engage in any behaviors that will reduce their own IQ?
They’ve been living together for a couple of years and are making plans for a wedding.A man's level of confidence governs his life and actions.In three separate studies, the team found that men were attracted to such women .In one study, male undergraduates were asked to read about a hypothetical situation in which a female student in their class outperformed them, or underperformed them, in either a math or an English class, and then to imagine how they would think, feel, and behave in such a situation.Fortunately, of course, there are also men and women who do fit the pattern discovered in the research.
I have seen and known many men who are close to, romantically attracted to, and in long-term, successful marriages with women who outperform them—and whom they also consider smarter than themselves. After a lot of dates, a few duds, and a period of unsuccessful meet-ups, she met and fell in love with a man who admires and is attracted to her as a whole package—intelligence and all.
They were then asked to rate the woman both in terms of warmth and friendliness, and in terms of how desirable they would find her as a long-term romantic partner.
Whether the subject was math or English, the men rated the woman who outperformed them as a long-term romantic partner.
She was attracted by his profile, which made him seem smart, thoughtful and interesting.
He liked how she looked in her photos, and also thought she sounded fun, interesting, and smart.
While we may admire a superior woman from afar we are unlikely to pursue a woman who we think is "to good" for us.